Have you ever asked yourself:

What would love do now? Like how to act in a certain situation so you do better in a relationship? What would God do? - I think sometimes.

I have a little tip here for you from a very High vibe book that will help you find answer as it did for me:

What would love do now?

“No other question is irrelevant, no question is meaningful, no other question has any importance to your soul.

Now we come upon a very delicate point of interpretation, for this principle of self-love, sponsored action has been widely misunderstood - And is this misunderstanding, which has led to the resentments and anger of life - which, in turn, has caused so many to stray from the path. For centuries, you have been taught that love - sponsored action arises out of the choice to be, do, and have whatever produces the highest good for another.

Yes, I tell you this: the highest choice is that which produces the highest good for you. As with all profound, spiritual truth, this statement opens itself to immediate misinterpretation. The mystery clears a bit the moment one of the sides. What is the highest “good” one could do for oneself. And when the absolute highest choice is made, the mystery dissolves, the circle completes itself, and the highest good, for you, becomes the highest good for another.

It may take lifetimes to understand this - and even more lifetimes to implement that for the truth involved revolves around an even greater one: What you do for your Self, you do for another. What you do for another, you do for your Self.

This is because you and the other are one.

It is important in relationships to remember this truth, for without it relationships will be very difficult.

So often under the old understanding, people - well-meaning, well intentioned and very religious - did what they thought would be the best for the other person in their relationships. Sadly, all this produced in many cases was continued abuse to buy the other. Continued miss treatment. Continued dysfunction in the relationship.
Ultimately, the person trying to do what is right by the other to be quick to forgive the show compassion to continue to look past certain problems and behaviors becomes resentful, angry, and mistrusting even of God. For how can he just demand such an ending suffering, joylessness, and sacrifice, even in the name of love?

The answer is, God does not. God asks only that you include yourself among those you love. God goes further. God suggests - recommends - that you put yourself first.

I tell you this - putting yourself first in the highest sense, never leads to an unGodly act. If therefore, you have caught, caught yourself in an ungodly act as a result of doing what is best for you the confusion is not in having put yourself first, but rather in misunderstanding what is best for you.

Of course, determining what is best for you will require you to also determine what it is you are trying to do. This is an important step that many people ignore. What are you “up to”? What is your purpose in life without answers to these questions, the matter of what is “best” in any given circumstances, will remain a mystery.

As a practical matter, if you look toward what is best for you in this situation, where you are being abused, at the very least what you will do is to stop the abuse. And that will be good for both you and your abuser. Or even an abuser is abused when his abuse is allowed to continue.Therefore, treating others with love does not necessarily mean allowing others to do as they wish.

Yet despot cannot be allowed to flourish, but must be stopped in their despotism. Love of self, and love of a despot, demands it.

This is the answer for your question, if love is all that is, how can men ever justify war. Sometimes men must go to war to make the grandest statements about who mentally is he who abhors war.

There are times when you may have to give up Who You Are in order to be Who You Are. There are Masters who have thought: you cannot have it all until you are willing to give it all up. Thus, in order to “have” yourself as a man of peace, you may have to give up the idea of yourself, as a man who never goes to war. History has called upon men for such decisions. The same is true in the most individual and the most personal relationships. Life can more than once call upon you to prove Who You Are, by demonstrating an aspect of Who You Are Not.”

~ As per “Conversations with God book one”